ERGH.......
So, I'm not going to wrap up my summer and show you some pics of us playing in our backyard baby pool because who really cares. I'm not going to tell you what we did and show you pictures.... I'm just going to launch into randomly blogging. And see if I still have it in me. If I don't do this I don't think I'll ever blog again.
So, I ask you my readers....
...how do you stop yourself from getting bitter and angry towards all the people in your life that just do not GET IT.
I mean get IT.
And this IT can be many things.... but mainly I mean being a mother
or...
Sleep deprivation.
Chronic pain.
Anxiety.
And parenting with pain. Ugh.
And I know that I used to be someone who didn't get just how exhausting motherhood is. I know that. So I should have grace for these people, right?
But honestly, I have very little. And I need to stop wasting my mental energy being annoyed by the people in my life who don't realize how good they have it.
But I tell you, sometimes I just want to SCREAM and say what I think and remind them how FILTHY RICH YOU ARE. I mean, have you seen what is going on in Somalia? really??? really??????????
So I guess it looks by all my caps above that I am screaming at you my wonderful readers on my blog. sorry!
But can you help this angry girl out?
xoxo
So, I ask you my readers....
...how do you stop yourself from getting bitter and angry towards all the people in your life that just do not GET IT.
I mean get IT.
And this IT can be many things.... but mainly I mean being a mother
or...
Sleep deprivation.
Chronic pain.
Anxiety.
And parenting with pain. Ugh.
And I know that I used to be someone who didn't get just how exhausting motherhood is. I know that. So I should have grace for these people, right?
But honestly, I have very little. And I need to stop wasting my mental energy being annoyed by the people in my life who don't realize how good they have it.
But I tell you, sometimes I just want to SCREAM and say what I think and remind them how FILTHY RICH YOU ARE. I mean, have you seen what is going on in Somalia? really??? really??????????
So I guess it looks by all my caps above that I am screaming at you my wonderful readers on my blog. sorry!
But can you help this angry girl out?
xoxo
posted by emily at
9:27 PM
7 Comments:
This may not be as helpful as you would like but honestly, I just don't associate with those people. I've had some very incredible comments and looks about our adoption and life choices (being ridiculously in debt for our adoption).
For my own sanity and too keep from me completely berating the dumb people I just don't have them in my life. That may be harsh, but I really can't handle it sometimes. They aren't worth it to me.
I've come to realize I have no use for stupid people. Really, why talk in circles around them and put up with ignorance and bs. Move on! You'll be better off for it!!
Hugs,
Rhonda
Hmmm...again, maybe not what you want to hear, but you don't need to fuss yourself with them. Either reevaluate the relationship, or focus on moving the relationship in a direction that is more sustainable and life giving. It's tough, I do know that. I really, really know that. I am still learning to let go of others opinions and choices. What matters is what I do. There is a cheesy Chinese-like proverb somewhere that refers to 'carrying' people when you stew about someone. I've had to stop carrying some people in my mind. And when in doubt? Get together with someone wonderful, drink something lovely and take one thing off your list that you don't need to do.
Hugs!
I love you. I get it. You are not alone. Cheesy? Maybe - but true!! Scream all you want, your blogging buddies have very broad shoulders, we can take it - we can take pretty much anything...
(((HUGS)))
Laura
I so get it. As you know I just had the Shop With Care party. I had so many beautiful, amazing items. The support was pathetic. These people have so much money, and their excuses were absolutely pathetic for not supporting. It makes me so angry. I would have made more money for the orphanages if I had just donated the cost of hosting to them. As for the pain thing, I so get it. Maybe I should start my blog back up. I just stopped because people thought I was whining and complaining too much. But honestly, let's see all these people try and parent two super active children with their damn uterus hanging out. Let's see how they do then! Sorry, I have a LOT of anger. A lot. I am not sure how to deal with it. I am struggling and fully admit the anger and frustration and saddness all take over some days. Hang in there, you have me as a friend whenever you need it. I am hoping to make a trip out to the coast next spring... playdate and coffee then?
AH, Emily...I hear ya. I am so exhausted most nights, I put the kids to bed and then myself right after! My house is a mess, I am working full-time and most nights my husband comes home and says 'what's for dinner' and I look at him like he has two heads, because who had time this morning to think ahead about taking meat out for dinner later? I was too busy trying to get library books into bags and make sure kids hat hats and coats and gym strip etc. 3 days a week I end up running out the door without my own lunch because I am too bust worrying about everyone else. And I am exhausted, yet I can't sleep. I have insomnia and am a light sleeper, so any noise wakes me up, plus the teeny bladder that means I am up to pee 5 times a night too.
Some days I just want to scream! I have been super whiney about the adoption lately, and I know that bugs people in my circle of friends, but I don't care. I think I might sleep better if I finally had some answers and security in thinking it would happen. More sleep would lead to a more energetic mama over here! I'm in for tea if you want to go out sometime! Ah, who am I kidding...what time would that be? Maybe when the kids are in university!!! LOL!!!
Wow, what a day for me to check out if there is anything new on your blog!
Emily, some of the things you write about I do get, and admitidly there are others i don't. I have been fortunate to not have to live with constant pain...
but as for some other things... being a mom of 2 young children is hard work, and yes all those lovely things like sleep, feeling like a wife, no anxiety, etc. are all like a dream! But...the truth is that you are doing the most important job in the world right now. You are teaching your children by your example that family is the top priority in your life. Remember that God gave you those children to raise, and He will give to you what you need to do that job. What He didn't give us is a guarantee that it would be easy.
Not everyone is going to "get it" that parenting isn't what they percieve you to do, but it is what you see fit as being best for your family. You can choose to move on and you can choose to keep on doing what is right for your family! and learn that others opinions aren't going to burden you.
I can't promise you that you won't have frustrations etc. but trust me, things do get easier, as your children gain independence you will find some of the day to day burdens lifted.
Hope this is helpful to you,
(((HUGS)))
Aunt Rose
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